in the Lao Iu Mien Community
- When you greet the Iu Mien people, smile. Shake the person’s hand gently, using both of your hands, and bow slightly.
- The Iu Mien people generally start their conversations by asking your name and how you are. They are flattered when you reciprocate with questions, particularly questions about their family name. For example, you might ask, "Are there many members with your family name in this area?
- The traditional order of the person’s name is last name first. For example, Kouichoy Saechao would be called Chao Kouichoy in traditional Iu Mien culture. (“Sae”means literally, “My last name is …”)
- Iu Mien people prefer to be recognized as "Iu Mien," not just "Mien."
- When you are offered tea or refreshments, always accept the offer. (You don’t have to drink or eat if you don’t want to.) If they serve you tea, it is more polite to receive the teacup with both hands.
- Before you begin your talk, acknowledge the elders (oldest one first).